Boyfriends beware; some guys see all girls as fair game

"Wow, look at her. She’s just amazing."

"Yeah, but I heard she has a boyfriend."

"Really? Well not for long."

Time out.

What? The phrase "has a boyfriend" doesn’t raise a red flag?

I get really pissed off by people who blatantly continue pursuing a person who’s already with someone else. To me, they’re on the same sorry level as the word "Taliban" in terms of being good.

Lurking in the nightlife, they couldn't care less if she already has a boyfriend.

Just like you wouldn’t want your girlfriend walking around in Afghanistan with an American Flag right now, you wouldn’t want her in a bar full of jerks like that.

It helps that these guys normally don’t stand a chance. Most women are loyal, with emphasis on the word "most," but there are times when even the most faithful fall victim to vulnerability. Whether they’re in a fight or he’s out of town for a week, this is when guys have a chance. Throw in some fake charm and who knows.

I unfortunately know about all this first hand. I’ve lost the girl to a guy that didn’t care. God that really sucked, losing something very important to me without a thing I could do. I’ve never felt so helpless in my life.

So I’m not a big fan of guys like that. If you’ve also experienced it, you probably want to kick these guys in the crotch as I do - repeatedly, and with very heavy boots. Of course your ex-girlfriend is just as much at fault, but we’re not allowed to kick girls. So all our anger is vented toward the guy.

Now I know it’s more important to focus on the strength of a relationship than pessimistically worrying about these "what ifs," but this "what if" sure doesn’t help even the strongest relationship.

As much as you hope to avoid this situation, there’s always going to be guys out there that pose a threat.

Even if they’re human enough to realize that it’s not very nice to try to ruin a relationship, they won’t care. They only care about themselves. There’s no getting around that.

They’ll rationalize it saying, "Well it was bound to happen. There was nothing much left to break up."

What a load of crap! They are SO caught up in trying to get what they want, they’ll justify the shadiness of their actions by downplaying their effects.

They also say, "You should have been there with her to defend it."

I hate that kind of reasoning - how ignorant. It’s a given, you can’t always be there. With our busy lives, there will be times apart when the strength of a relationship is tested. It’s times like these that you hope what you’ve got together is good enough to keep it going. But to a guy that’ll stop at nothing to get her, you’re a sitting duck.

There’s only one way of effectively reasoning with these guys.

I’ll refer to a well-known saying:

"What goes around, comes around."

If you think it’s OK to do, you’re bound to have it happen to you.

Wow, it even rhymes. I’m good.

You wouldn’t want it to happen to you, so don’t do it to someone else. It’s all about the golden rule. Moms are right. The world would be a better place if we all lived by it.

I personally swear to never pursue someone who’s already taken. Because the second I do so, I know I’m setting myself up to have it happen to me later on.

I’m a strong believer in fate. It’s a powerful force able to start a viscous cycle that you’re bound to lose to.

I make my hormones go out to lunch when I hear the feared word "boyfriend."

Yep, if a girl wants me to get lost, that’s all she has to say. But why is it that every girl I meet seems to have a boyfriend already. Screw the stock market, we’re in a recession of available females right now. Even if there are some great single girls out there right now, trust me, by the time I meet them, they’ll have boyfriends. I’m just that damn lucky.

I love how girls break the bad news. Upon receiving the slightest hint of interest from a guy, they mention it right away so the guy doesn’t continue trying and end up embarrassing himself. So they’re forced to bring it up no matter how random it is. You could be talking about the news or the weather and she’ll find some crazy way to throw the word "boyfriend" into the conversation.

"Hey, it’s cold out. My boyfriend hates cold weather."

"Oh (damn). Interesting."

Whatever the case, once you know, make the right decision and back off. Even if you’re cocky enough to believe you’re immune from such a risk, you’ll be freeing yourself of the title "hypocrite" while living according to a rule that never fails.

Yeah. Right Mom?

Till next week guys.

Brian Dillon is a senior in Purdue’s Professional Pilot Program. Email him at dillonb@purdue.edu.

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